Human Connection – The Pearl of Great Value

Posted by on August 18, 2013 in On Life | 11 comments


by Christina Carson

Pearl of great valueHuman connection is a pearl of great value, and, like an exquisite gem, it hangs around few necks. We crave it; oh we do, for somewhere inside us we know it’s the way things were meant to be. In our part of the world, many have given up on the notion of deeply committed connection and have gotten a dog or cat to fill that void. Yes, honest relationship, for honesty is a necessity in this case, is vanishing from our society like clear skies from Los Angeles, mostly because we no longer honor honesty. Watch TV ads and see what values they foster. Lying is treated as a clever solution. Taking responsibility is non-existent. What that leaves us with is superficiality at its finest, and we all know how wearying and empty relationships of that ilk are.

Yes, it takes time to establish a deep connection with another: time to come to understand and be honest about yourself; time to work out each snag as it arises with another. But oh how fine the rewards.

I have mentioned before what a fan I’ve been of the Carlos Castaneda series, even more so when I actually realized what Don Juan was describing and introducing Carlos to – a new worldview, the one quantum physics threw in science’s face. But there were so many other truths I also saw within that grand design Don Juan kept demonstrating. One thing I read there was a line Don Juan said in reference to his best friend, Don Genaro. You know how when you read something that just sticks with you, but you’re unsure as to why? The line I read that day was such a statement. Don Juan and Don Genaro explored this universe fearlessly for many years, lived in a state of consciousness that kept them above the daily litany of tripe but required them to maintain that state through their devotion to holding in defeat four enemies: fear, clarity, power, and old age. For that commitment, they in turn had a life of extraordinary dimensions. Carlos, still living in the superficiality of drama and gamesmanship did not really grasp what Don Juan told him in that line so memorable to me, when he pointed to Don Genaro and said: Only with this one am I real.

That’s what we want. That’s what we seek. To be real with others rather than constantly racking it back to meet what we refer to as polite behavior. Not that being real means the opposite – impolite or rude behavior. Rather it means we can live honestly, at least as a starting point, and with honesty as our basis for relationship, the world is our oyster, and the pearl of being able to be real hangs about our neck not as an albatross, but as a gem that allows us both true love and respect for another and all that makes possible in the relationships of our lives.

With thanks to Darlene Jones, whom I’ve met through social media a while back, who made a comment this morning that brought that favored line back to mind for very good reason.

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  1. I am honored!

    • Christina Carson

      The beauty of being real is everyone wins. Thanks for being there.

  2. This is my one true ambition. Well-written. Thank you, Christina!

    • Christina Carson

      I couldn’t think of a better one as moving yourself in that direction is moving you toward a deeper understanding of your true nature. That in itself is amazing. Then whomever we love becomes icing on an already delicious cake.

  3. Excellent article I enjoyed reading, brief, engaging and has a great theme, understanding each other in any given moment is fantastic.

    • Christina Carson

      Isn’t it ever. And I count it as one of life’s pure experiences every time I have such a moment with another of my human species. So thank you for stopping by.

  4. Long before we started reading each other’s posts, we were writing to each other, and I said to Del, “With Christina I can be real.” You know what I mean Christina, when I say, “Thank you Christina!”

    • Christina Carson

      Oh do I ever my dear. It’s the absolute most precious gift we humans have to offer one another. And when we do, to me that’s Love.

  5. Relationship building is an art form, the highest art form. There are relationships that require the expenditure of a a lot of energy because the other party isn’t adding any. There are other relationships where we expend less energy because the other party is supplying more than we are. And then there are relationships that require a compromise of our integrity and necessitate the immediate withdrawal of all energy. An essential part of the art form is knowing which of the three we are dealing with.

    • Christina Carson

      That’s a course in relationship that should be taught everywhere.

Thoughtful comments are always welcome!


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